9 tips to help you be a good mom.
It is said that the happiness of moms is based on that of their children because mothers sacrifice themselves, breathe, and live for the well-being of their children. The best thing in the world for a mother is to see her children fulfilled and happy.
The most important thing to remember as a mother is that the love you put into your relationship with your child will always be in the hearts of both of you, whether it's immediate or long-term effects.
Every mom wants to learn how to be a good mom, but there isn't necessarily a right formula and you don't have to be a mom by copying your friends or your favorite TV characters. You just need to master some essentials. Here are some helpful tips on how to be a good mom.
9 steps to be a good mom.
1. Be patient and control your anger
If your child makes a big mistake by spilling juice or milk on your new carpet, try taking deep breaths and counting to ten to calm yourself down. It can be difficult to avoid screaming with fatigue and every mother screams at one time or another.
Don't blame yourself for that. Just try to do better next time. Being a parent is a test of patience, and if you can be patient, it will be good for both your child and you. By working on increasing your patience, you can be more pedagogical and a great example for your children.
2. Support and comfort your child
Studies have shown that children with understanding and warm parents can cope better with adversity and improve cognitive tasks when they are older.
A University of Washington study found that children in preschool settings with actively present and comforting mothers (during your child's stressful times) would develop more of a certain part of their brain, the hippo campus, which is closely related to memory and the ability to handle stress.
3. Be understanding
Take the time to listen carefully to your child and be an understanding parent. As your children get older, it will go a long way for them to know they can turn to you, whether it's homework help, advice, or even information about certain milestones like puberty.
4. Communicate with them
Be sure to communicate frequently with your children. Learn to interpret the signs, and understand their actions, thoughts, loves, and possible obstacles.
Some tips to help you get your child talking:
- Be available when your child is most likely to speak.
- Start a conversation so they know you care, and try to start with things on your mind instead of asking questions all the time.
- Schedule a time at least once a week to spend one-on-one time with your child.
- Be interested in what interests your child.
- Show interest without being intrusive and focus on your child's feelings.
- If your child is preoccupied with something, take care to listen fully without further distraction.
- Do not respond until your child has finished speaking.
- Have your say, but make sure your child understands that it's okay to disagree.
5. Cultivate mutual respect
Earning your child's respect through your behavior will help him learn to respect himself. Without great attention, your child will not be able to value himself, which will make him more likely to mistreat others or develop risky behaviors such as taking drugs or alcohol.
If your child has good self-esteem, he will take good care of himself. He will act in a way that promotes his interests and makes good choices in general. Children who learn respect from an early age tend to be generous, caring, sincere, selfless, happy, and maintain healthier relationships with others.
6. Spend more time with them
When you spend time with your children, they get many benefits.
They will feel important and loved, which helps build their self-esteem.
You will be a good role model. Remember that children learn behavior based on the actions of those they spend time with.
You will also learn about your child's assets and strengths as well as areas where they can improve. This will allow you to help them leverage their strengths to reach their full potential.
Children and teens go through many stages in life and it helps to be able to talk about them. When you spend time with your child, they will be much more comfortable talking with you.
The quality of time you spend with them will also strengthen your relationship as it helps build mutual trust.
7. Give a gift at the right time
You shouldn't spend tons of money and give your child everything he wants with the expectation of pleasing him, but you should strike the right balance and never waste your money.
Once in a while, buy a small toy to reward his behavior and make him happy. Then, less often, buy a bigger item that your child wants. Be sure to be generous on your child's birthday.
8. Apologize when you're wrong
Although difficult, you need to be able to admit to your child that you are wrong and then ask for an apology for your overreactions.
This will keep everyone from getting mad and will show your child that everyone is wrong. It is important to apologize when mistakes occur. If you're wrong, take the time to calm down and examine the situation to find out exactly what you did wrong, so you can explain it to your child and apologize if necessary.
9. Cultivate your child's qualities
Perhaps the best gift you can give your child is to help them build good self-esteem, as this will help them value themselves and avoid bad relationships later on.
Children with high self-esteem are also more likely to reach their full potential and be happy. Just spend time with your child and show them that they are valuable.
You also want to give your child the skills and abilities to be independent. Teach your child to gradually become independent as they go through different stages of development.

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