THESE ARE THE BEST DIFFERENT PARENTING STYLES YOU MUST KNOW.

You all have your parenting style, which you will discover, modify and adapt as your child develops. Nevertheless, you tend not to always be aware of it or otherwise have a hard time defining or understanding it. It is important to become aware of this to change or improve your relationship with your own childhood story, to your parenthood, and by extension to your relationship with your child and your educational partner. Focus on the different parenting styles.

Parenting, what parenting style am I?

Often in a parental couple, you can have two different styles that can lead to misunderstandings or even conflicts. We often hear about Mother Bear, Papa Wolf, etc., so it can be complicated to make “a bear and a wolf” live together. However, for the well-being of your child and your family, you will need to find a common course of action in your parenting. Especially since you will change your parenting style depending on the personality and the situations experienced by your child…a mother tiger can become a hen just as a father bear can become a turtle. Nothing is fixed in your parenting style!

So dear parents, what is your parenting style? How would you intuitively define it? What animal do you identify with? And above all, what impact on your child and his development?

4 parenting styles defined

In the field of psychological research during the 1970s, an American clinical psychologist Diana Baumrind defined 4 generalist parenting styles to establish the type of parent/child interaction. It is important to emphasize that two criteria are put forward to create the definition of parenting style:

The level of attention and affection that the parent offers the child
The level of supervision of the child and the requirements of the parent towards him
Below are the 4 parenting styles identified:

Authoritarian

These are parents who only conceive of their parental functions in an authoritarian dynamic with no room for maneuvering for the child. Everything becomes an order to be carried out without saying anything and with accuracy: “do it, period”. If a rebellion, even very minimal such as a look, a gesture, or a word, sets in on the part of the child, the sanctions are immediate, often unsuited to the situation and the parent very often does not provide any explanation. These are parents who will have strong and numerous demands on their child and who will, most of the time, be unsuitable. In the popular image with anthropomorphism, this parenting style is identified with the animal tiger, lion, and wolf.

Profile of a child of “authoritarian” parents

This can create a profile of a child, certainly calm, but sad and often misunderstanding prohibitions and requirements. He is constantly in fear of losing the love of his parents, of not being considered for what he is/feels, also of doing wrong, he will easily lose his self-confidence. This child will also often find it difficult to manage and express his emotions because a form of emotional and behavioral rigidity will set in. He will also find it difficult to adapt to changes and can easily be influenced by fear of rejection by other children.

Permissive

They are parents with the behavior of indulgence in all tests, they do not want to be in a constant confrontation with their child, and they are conflict phobic or against the exercise of authority. They can also, sometimes, fear not being loved by their child or being rejected by him. They let their child realize their mistakes and fend for themselves. The parents let the child express himself and agree to put in place compromises. They are strongly involved with their child and are attentive to his emotions in a lasting way. In the popular image, this parenting style is identified with the animal dog, hen, and turtle.

Profile of a child of “permissive” parents

This can produce a profile of a child with a lack of knowledge of the limits and rules to be respected in the community. This is very insecure in the long term for the harmonious development of the child. The child feels free, however, this can produce anxiety because he may not always know what to do with this freedom. He will often be confronted with emptiness, fears, and discouragement in the face of the effort. The relationship with others can quickly become conflicting because he is often perceived as a king/tyrannical/immature child, he can therefore be rejected or reprimanded, causing him to feel unwell.

Democratic

This parenting style is a mixture of authoritarian and permissive. It is called the happy medium and therefore an ideal to be achieved in parenthood. While waiting for their child to ask questions, the parents encourage him in his discoveries, let him reflect on his behavior, and congratulate him by often valuing him. Parents are attentive while laying down simple, clear, constant rules with a reassuring framework while agreeing to exchange with the child and to take their emotions into account. Parents have expectations adapted to the age and personality of their children. In the popular image, this parenting style is identified with the animal gorilla, seal, and elephant.

Profile of a child of “democratic” parents

Your child will be able to develop a profile with good social skills and positivity in his behavior and his relationship with others. He has confidence in himself and in others, which brings him the pleasure of discovery while feeling safe and serene. He is a child who knows how to follow instructions.

Disengaged

This parenting style is marked by an almost total lack of involvement with the child. It is often characterized by physical absence, and the lack of emotional involvement (little affection, little attention) in the daily life of the child (little supervision). Parents do not participate or participate very little in the educational life of their child, it is often third-party adults who do so like grandparents or a nanny. In the popular image, this parenting style is identified with the animal chameleon, peacock, and panda.

Profile of a Child of “Disengaged” Parents

Faced with a disengaged parenting style, a child may develop an insecure attachment profile due to a lack of affection and interest from his parents. He will often be in search of contact with them and will do everything to attract their attention, thus also developing behavioral and mood disorders. He lacks confidence in himself and others. The child feels alone, abandoned, and not worthy of love since his parents do not love him.

Try to get closer to the democratic parenting style

As you will have understood, the parental style to which we must tend daily is the democratic one. You will have moments or periods with signs of another parenting style, the real challenge is to succeed in trusting yourself as a parent and prioritizing the needs and desires of your child, not the one you want to format at all costs. Also, stop comparing yourself with other parents and with other children. Follow your intuitions and take a step back by accepting your mistakes and verbalizing them to your child.

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